Slips and relapses are constant obstacles during recovery from an addiction of any kind. No matter what substance or practice that someone is addicted to, there will be urges to revert back to addictive and destructive practices. While someone should establish coping strategies to deal with these urges early on, there is always a chance that someone will experience a slip or relapse in their recovery. Even if this is the case, there is always a way to get back on track with recovery. Understanding slips and relapses, and what to do when you relapse, can help each person set appropriate personal strategies for their recovery going forward. Even if someone experiences a slip or relapse, that doesn’t mean they are beyond recovery from their addiction. Rather, it can be an indicator that there needs to be a change or adjustment in someone’s recovery plan. Knowing the steps to take after a lapse vs. relapse can help each person create a new and more effective plan for the future.
Slips and relapses are a constant threat through recovery. There can be any number of personal triggers that may cause someone to feel urges to re-engage in addictive behaviors again, and someone must be prepared to ground themselves during these trying times. Experiencing slips or relapses in recovery is unfortunate, but not uncommon. Contrary to the beliefs of some, it is not a necessary part of recovery to go through a slip or relapse. There are cases where people can recover from an addiction without experiencing a relapse, though each person must be constantly vigilant in addressing their own emotional state, their environment, and their triggers. Despite this, experiencing a slip or relapse doesn’t mean that someone has failed in their recovery, and some people see the event of going through a slip as a rite of passage that can further someone’s own drive to attain and maintain sobriety in their lives. However, knowing what to do about a slip or relapse involves first understanding the difference between the two terms. While they can be heard being used interchangeably, there are key differences between a “slip” and a “relapse.”
Slips, or “lapses,” are often single-time occurrences that happen unintentionally, and without a pattern. They are the case where someone re-engages with an addictive substance due to external reasons, such as having a glass of wine at a wedding. They often involve environmental factors that unintentionally put someone in a high-risk situation. While someone recovering from an addiction to alcohol may take a sip of wine, or have a beer at a gathering where they were not expecting alcohol to be present, these slips are often accompanied by a great deal of shame or guilt about their actions. During a slip, someone may put the drink back down quickly and find a way to ground themselves in their situation or contact one of their support systems. Slips can be used as a learning experience, showing each person how quickly that addiction can try to regain control of their lives and express the importance of the skills that are being instilled during therapy. Experiencing a slip or lapse doesn’t mean that it will necessarily develop into a relapse, though it is possible if the person doesn’t address the situation quickly with their support system and professionals. During a slip, recovery is still the priority, and a person may feel a great deal of shame because of the pride and effort they are still putting into their recovery journey.
Relapses, contrary to slips, typically aren’t contained to a single event. A relapse can include a delve back into past behaviors, both in the usage of an addictive substance as well as old habits, interests, or even social circles. During a relapse, addiction begins to regain control over the way that someone structures their day and their lives. While there may still be a degree of guilt or shame involved, the person will still be trying to find ways to use drugs or alcohol again. During a relapse, an individual may even begin to see one’s recovery meetings and group therapy sessions as obstacles to their usage and will hide the facts of their relapse from others, making it more difficult to regain their sobriety. Relapses are more than a single drink at a party. They can be the urge to actively return to the bar. Relapses still don’t mean that someone is beyond recovery in any way, but they do signal the need to return to detox and establish a new, adjusted plan for recovery going forward that will employ new strategies to help them deal with their unique situations. To know if one relapse will cause withdrawal will depend on each person, how long they relapse for, and the intensity in which they are re-engaging with previous addictions.
There are a few different signals that someone may be experiencing a relapse, or if they are in danger of relapsing if left unaddressed. What happens when you relapse can vary from person to person, but there are some common signs to watch for. Cravings will seem to increase, and there may be a new friend or social group that someone is spending more and more time with. Relapses can also involve a romanticization of the past, and a longing for things to return to the way they were before the difficulties of recovery began. Someone may also become more isolated, reclusive and uninterested in their hobbies or previous interests, or be unwilling to use established outlets. Relapses can also set in from overconfidence in someone’s recovery, causing them to become complacent and thus less prepared to deal with these increasing urges in each moment. Knowing what to do when you relapse will be up to the strategies instilled by a professional and loving support system, but there will almost always be a look back at someone’s immediate grounding techniques, environment and potential triggers, and the establishment of a new approach or therapeutic practice to recovery.
Addressing a slip needs to be done directly. It is important to acknowledge that it happened, and not cower behind the guise of shame. Confronting the event directly and addressing the slip is the best way to ensure that it doesn’t continue to develop into a relapse. Slips are common and are not indicative of a failure in any way. They are unintentional, and having a lapse in the moment doesn’t mean that someone has to restart their recovery. After a slip, someone can typically return to the same stage they were already attending in recovery, and address the various elements that led to the slip, such as environment and the people present, or potential unforeseen triggers that may have been involved. However, slips can also prove to be a motivational tool, as someone can identify the techniques they used successfully to then be able to back off from a previous addiction and take pride in their ability to quickly regain their agency over addiction.
Recovery from a relapse is a bit more complicated, as it can depend on how frequently and how intensely someone was re-engaging with a previous addiction. While the person will need to address the situation head-on, just as with a slip, they will have to first undergo the detox process again, expelling the substance from the body once more before they can tackle their relapse with a sober mind. Overall, it then involves a degree of acknowledgment, as well as forgiveness and acceptance of the fact that they can still recover despite their relapse and should return to treatment. Alongside a professional, each person can address their emotional state, environment, time spent for self-care, grounding strategies, and many other elements that may have contributed to their relapse. It typically also involves a change in someone’s recovery plan. This can involve trying out new therapies that may be more effective for someone, such as engaging in art therapy, media therapy, or animal-assisted therapy — or will involve a change in the person’s schedule, by attending more individual therapy sessions, or a heavier attendance in a group setting. If someone relapsed during their outpatient treatment, it may even be necessary to return to a sober living environment while they begin to practice these new skills and therapeutic approaches to their addiction recovery. By looking at what elements of recovery were working, and which facets were coming up short, a person can work with professionals to begin to develop a new plan that may be more refined to help them maintain their sobriety in the future. So what does having a relapse mean? It means going back and trying new strategies and re-engaging in recovery with the information provided by the situation. It does not necessarily mean that someone has to completely restart — they simply need to adjust their plan, going forward.
Relapse can be more intense or probable, depending on the person and their unique situation and environment. While heroin is widely regarded as the most addictive drug, it also has one of the highest rates of relapse. However, that doesn’t mean that other drugs or alcohol are not just as dangerous when it comes to the threat of relapse. Relapse is something that can happen with any kind of addiction, and regardless of the addiction, it is important to have a relapse prevention strategy in place early on in recovery in order to effectively cope with the urges that may be present through the recovery process and beyond. Recovery from addiction is a life-long battle that will require various coping strategies and tweaks to the recovery model to adapt to the person’s constantly changing life. However, slips and relapses don’t mean there is no hope for recovery. There is always a way to recover, even if it takes a couple of tries. There are always new developments, and each person has the ability to live a sober life with the right treatment, coping mechanisms, and therapy.
Chateau Recovery is ready to help you tackle the difficult and complicated world of addiction recovery from drugs or alcohol. Slips and relapses are a common occurrence, but there are ways to prevent them during the recovery process. Each program can be personalized for you or your loved one, depending on your specific needs and goals for recovery. By taking an intimate, personal approach to each person, our programs allow our clients to focus on their unique strengths and engage in a recovery model that is highly personalized, for the most effective treatment.
Additionally, at Chateau Recovery, we have curated a safe, comfortable, and understanding environment in which you can address your vulnerabilities. For more information on the various programs available to you, or for more information on addiction, slips, and relapse, contact one of the caring professionals at Chateau Recovery today at (435) 222-5225.